'I'

I am solely more than enough, better than enough..
I might cry but I won't give up, I will always try..
I might weep but I won't let my tears go cheap..
I might get hurt but I know I have enough courage to trust my gut..
I may fall asleep over thinking but I will make sure it's  worth thinking..
I might hurt my selves but I better know to resolve it thy selves..
I might come across numeral obstacles but I know how to change it in wonders..
I might curse myself for what not but I am blessed to have immense power to do a lot..
Each of us have this 'I' and it's incredible..
Allow and Arose this 'I' to make it applicable..
It will make your life worth living and appreciable.

By - 
Purva Banthiya

व्यक्तित्व एवं ज़रुरतें

ज़रुरत एक ऐसा शब्द है जो हर किसी के जीवन में होता है।

किसी के लिए जरुरत कुछ भी नहीं और किसी के लिए सब कुछ है ये।

कभी कभी सोचता हूँ कहा से आती है इतनी ज़रुरत और कहां तक मैं इनको पूरा करू। 

एक भूके को ज़रुरत है भोजन की,

एक प्यासे को ज़रुरत है पानी की,

एक बच्चे को ज़रुरत है खिलोने की,

एक अनाथ को ज़रुरत है सहारे की,

ऐसी कई परिस्थितियाँ है जहाँ हर किसी को किसी न किसी वस्तु या सहयोग की ज़रुरत है।

हर किसी की ज़रुरतें भिन्न है।

परन्तु आज के युग में एक ज़रुरत सभी की समान है और वो है संस्कार की जरुरत। जिस गति से हम आज अपने समाज में आगे बढ़ते जा रहे हैं उसी गति से अपने संस्कार पीछे छोड़ते जा रहे हैं। परन्तु न जाने क्यों आज हमारे पास इतना समय ही नहीं है की हम अपनी ये महत्पूर्ण ज़रुरत को पूर्ण कर सके। क्या हमारी कामयाबी हमारे संस्कारो से ज्यादा महत्पूर्ण हो गई है ? क्या हमारा जन्म केवल अपने कार्य सिद्द करने के लिये हुआ है? 

कुछ कवर्त्तव्य हमारे समाज और संस्कृति के प्रति भी है।

आज भी हमारा समाज उस दौर से गुजर रहा है जहाँ एक ओर संस्कार और परोपकार की कहानी सुनाई जाती है। वहीँ  दूसरी ओर एक पुत्र अपने माता - पिता को बृद्ध आश्रम में भेज देता है और एक मासूम बच्चा अपने भोजन के लिये चौराहे पर खिलोने बेचता है। हम सम्पूर्ण समाज को नहीं बदल सकते परन्तु स्वम को बदल सकते है।

तो क्यों न एक शुरुआत करें स्वयम  से बदलने की 

हम अपनी ज़रुरत तो पूरी कर ही लेते है। क्यों न ज़रुरत उनकी पूरी करे जिनको वास्तविक जरुरत है।

ज़रुरत है एक परिवर्तन  लाने की 

ज़रुरत है सोच में परिवर्तन लाने की 

ज़रुरत है भेदभाव समाप्त  करने  की 

चलो आज हम अपने अंदर एक विस्वास जगाते  है,

जिन्हे है जरुरत खुशियों की उनके जीवन में खुशियों के दीप जलाते है। कुछ उनके दुःख कुछ अपनी खुशी चलो मिलकर एक नई खुशी बनाते है। चलो आज हम अपने अंदर एक विश्वास जगाते  है। सबके अंदर एक नई ख़ुशी फेहलाते है !!

     

देवेंद्र पांडेय 

ETHICAL DILEMMA – EQUALITY OR SECULARISM?

We have read it in books, several times and wondered what actually a dilemma is like or how to get out of such situation? According to books, an Ethical Dilemma is a situation where there has to be a decision made between couple of options which may be right and justified at their ends.

Not long ago High Court of Maharashtra had an appeal from ‘Bhumata Brigade’ seeking judicial approval over lifting of all gender barriers for access to the inner sanctum where there is idol of ‘Shani or Saturn Shrine’ at Shani Shingnapur temple in Ahmednagar, Maharashtra. The temple had a 400-year tradition of not allowing women to worship at the altar. On 26^th Jan, 2016, a group 500 of protestors in buses was stopped by police near town of Supa, 70 Kms from temple.

Since temple tradition was justified on religious believes it somehow denied women an equal right of worshiping as men. That’s an Ethical Dilemma, where on one hand there stood Religious belief and on another stood Right to equality. Indian Constitution laid equal emphasis on Secularism, where religious belief of every individual is equally respected, and Equality, among all citizens of India. Opinions raised all across the country likely arguing that a tradition should not be broken as it would have calamitous effects or something bad would occur.  While others argued that it is a superstitious belief being followed for 400 year that now should be debunked. In a country where religious sentiments bind billions together can even lead them falling apart. Unrest situations and riots over religious causes have been frequently countered in India therefore a tough call was to be made by the judiciary at Maharashtra High Court.

On 1^st April High Court held that it is the women’s fundamental right to go into places of worship and the government is duty bound to protect their right. Further temple trust welcomed Court’s decision and invited Bhumata Brigade to offer prayers at inner sanctum as it opened doors for women thereon. Many people are still of an opinion that, ‘Maharashtra is facing drought because Saturn Shrine is upset over debunking of tradition’, a mere superstition, maybe. Whatever the impacts may be, this decision certainly speaks eloquently of peaceful and progressive of Indian triumph.

On latest notes, Tripti Desai led Brigade is demanding equal access to women at Haji Ali dargah. Another challenging dilemma for authorities.


By Umang Daga

Be selfless to selfish

Two alter egos were sitting in a park met after a long time. One of them was fortunately me.

Me: Hey dude! Is everything all right? Why my all-time nuisance creating buddy is so serine today?

Friend: Leave me alone (annoyed).This whole world is 'Selfish'.

Me: Correct (politely). But what's wrong in being selfish?

Friend: For the one whom we care the most disappoints the most. And the one whom you love the most hurts the most.

Me: It's not actually not being selfish my dear. It's just you expected a lot.

We Homo sapiens grow up learning the newton's 3 laws. Most of us forget the initial two. But maximum remember the third one. 'Every action has equal and opposite reaction'. And with this beautiful law we initiate raising our expectations. But this law on practical grounds is not as tenable as it is applicable on scientific grounds. Life is not just about theories, derivations, numerical. But it's much more. Not every student who studies for 18-20 hours regularly clears IAS exam. Not every war leads to peace.

Friend: It's really turning out frustrating for me.

Me: Calm down. You know the major reason of our frustration at maximum times is Expectation. If we aid someone, we expect the same from the guy some or other day. And if he is not able to do so we tag him with one of the most mis-interpreted word of the world 'selfish'. Without knowing his circumstances we set our mindsets and instead of fixing problem we give rise to another problem.

Friend: Oh c’mon! It's human nature. Why should we not expect?

Me: Nobody is selfish in this world. It's just how the needs and demands alter according to circumstances. Nobody can live isolated. Not even the Jainism saints who have although taken moksha but still urge to share and enlighten their thoughts. They wish to see the change. They do expect. But before expecting any change. Change yourself first. Expect from yourself rather than others.

Friend: Well that's true. But the word selfish means arrogance resulting into arrogance.

Me: This is exactly where we are mistaken my dear. The word selfish is not always a negative connotation as we perceive. To survive in this world we need to be selfish. Selfish like at least fulfilling our desires and working on our basic needs.

Friend: Yeah! True. It does sound interesting.

Me: One of the greatest ironies in life is before being social we need to be selfish first.  I hope you are not misinterpreting the term selfish now. Being selfish here means polishing yourselves, working on your forte by learning from others.

I remember one of the beautiful lines spoken by superstar Mr Shahrukh Khan that, do not engage in psychological talks until and unless you do not achieve anything (gyan tab tak na baato jab tak khud gyaani na ho jao).

Friend: So it's better to work on our grass first. Right?

Me: Oh yeah! Exactly. We cannot completely discard our expectations. But still we can minimize them. Maximum problems will soon get solved then and there itself.  Before being social be an achiever first. And when it comes to aid 'Be selfless to especially those who are selfish. By doing this you will definitely fall in love with yourselves. Concluding my words, stop complaining start living.

By - Purva Banthiya

" बूंद में जीवन "

किसी नल के नीचे बाल्टी रखना, खाली बाल्टी, नल को बंद करके थोड़ा सा खोल  देना, एकदम थोड़ा सा,

एक एक बून्द गिरे बाल्टी में इतना सा ही खोलना, एक एक बून्द जल्दी जल्दी बाल्टी में गिरने लगेगी,

कुछ समय के बाद बाल्टी भर जाएगी, अब थोड़ा सा ध्यान दीजिये,

बाल्टी मौत है, नल ईश्वर है , हमारा एक जन्म नल से बाल्टी तक का सफर है, हवा रस्ते की संसार है,

जितना पानी भरता जा रहा हमारे संचित कर्म है, और हम बून्द है, 

समय की रफ़्तार इतनी तेज़ है की पता नहीं चलता कब नल से छूटे और कब बाल्टी में समां गए,

बस इतना देखना है की क्या बून्द बाल्टी तक पहुंचने में ये जान पायेगी की वो बून्द नहीं बल्कि ईश्वर का अंग है,

जो ईश्वर में से निकल के ईश्वर में ही विलीन होने जा रहा है, अगर बून्द ने ये जान लिया तो फिर,

ना बाल्टी है, ना हवा है, ना सफर है, ना नल है , बस बून्द ही है ,

और अगर नहीं जान पायी, तो काल कालांतर तक ये ही चलता रहेगा |

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Painted Dome - "Rang Panchami"

28^th March, 2016

Rang Panchami,

Preparing for a celebration for children, which has its deep traditional roots isn’t an easy task when you have to abide by traditions, ensure enjoyable time for children and take care of vision as well as objectives of a social organization. Event Leaders Dr. Pooja, Miss. Stuti and Mr. Hitesh stepped up to take this responsibility and their team supported very well to make this event successful. Special acknowledgement for AnantAman members Atul, Deepanshi, Anupreet, Tanya, Sarang and Anand supported in handling various duties and behind the scenes hardwork.

Pohe served as breakfast to children.

Members making arrangements for music system and speakers.

Members and children dancing on music.

Everything was on schedule and we began with serving breakfast to children because it’s no fun to play on empty stomach. All hustle got attention as the DJ began to roll its sound tracks. It was time for fun, dance and obviously colors. As promised we stuck with our determination of Safe and Dry Holi by entirely eliminating use of water as well as bringing in only Herbal colors. Everyone rushed to grab a fist full of color and chase each other to apply color before anyone else could. Soon the colors were spread everywhere as if some fancy makeup artist took a handful job decorated pretty faces. Pink and yellow, blue and red, green and orange and many more, scattered all around.

There was a moment when eyes got stuck and thoughts began to fly high. Gazing at everyone there and wondering about hidden importance of festivals. They pack so much within that we rarely explore. Every face was so well colored that they all resembled similar. It was hard to point any difference. The differences we use to discriminate humiliate and ostracize others. Yes!! This colorful festival does carry an important message. It teaches us to look beyond colors of skin, names, castes and religions. Colors of holi certainly eliminated all difference to bring every person under nature’s dome to enjoy together.

Music was on and feet were not ready to stop for a single moment of breath. All that one could do is get in mood, get carried with vibes of this festival and put some color. Some possed for selfies while others asked for their portraits to be captured by then responsible man for photography of event, Sarang Rajderkar.

Hurdle race and Sprint race

We continued the fun with several games, Hurdle Race, Sprint Race & more. As time passed by children surely felt roars from within. Tummy was at its loudest speech asking for lunch. On their daily scheduled time without any delay children were served Roti, Sabzi, Kheer and Daal-Chawal as lunch.

Lunch being served to children

After refueling everyone was back for more fun. More dance and some more games were played with kids. Finally concluded event on a high note every one once again wished each other “Happy Holi ~ Rang Panchami”. At last group picture of all participants was necessary for souvenir of a fabulous day with children.

Group picture concluding event. 

“Colors, well they can be pleasing, attractive and enjoyable as well as repulsive, ugly, unacceptable and offensive but Blacks, Reds & Whites shouldn’t be basis for discrimination.”

Some highlights of celebration --->

By Umang Daga

Gulaal !!

Being a Jain I have learnt not to waste water unnecessarily. But being a human I have experienced that never to waste a single moment which who knows can be unknowingly source of joy. Well this situation is truly a dilemma. Now how will I be able to play Holi. Water or colors or just social sites! Excess water usage will ruin my values; colors may be skin sensitive, while just plain texts would be boredom.

Well not wasting water literally makes sense. There is still a major chunk in India which still suffers of this water shortage problem. We people usually go insane when our comfort zones that is a.c., water coolers or fans suffer from glitch and we have to spend just few hours without them. But you know there are still people in this nation whose happiness doesn't lie in such luxurious materialistic things. Their happiness lies in just basic needs such as food, clothe and home.

I have been constantly reading the success story of startups nowadays. Be it the Bangalore Cleanliness startup or Indore's recent Med startup. Wow! Technically we have so much innovation that just one click and get the most desirable stuff ignoring all the vague.  But isn't it true that the more we are becoming technology driven, the more we are forgetting our values.  In India still only 38 percent people have access to internet. Many rural areas are still facing the issue of water shortage, power shortage, food etc. Here the point isn't to be sympathetic towards them. They better know how to prove their capabilities and strive for what they want.

The only point that is being exaggerated is we as future drivers should understand the value of our natural resources and should not take them for granted. We should be careful if any leakage occurs at our surroundings. We should consume only that much water that we require. I have learnt this value from my 4rth standard student.  One day she asked me for water. I served her full glass of water. She asked me to make it half. I asked her why? She replied ' I don't require full glass I just require half amount of it and we should not waste water. I gently smiled and thanked her for opening my eyes. Children may be small but give us big teachings in simplest ways. I f you see today not just Rajasthan even Maharashtra, Madhya Pradesh are equally suffering the problem of water shortage.

Since its Holi, so reminder reminder!! On this occasion we will really prove to be sensitive and tolerant. But to overcome this issue Holi wouldn't be enough we every day need to follow few basics to eradicate this issue such as:

•       Only consume that much of water which is required
•     Use bucket instead of taking a shower
•     Use rice water for washing utensils and mopping
•     In case of any leakage repair it asap

If we all take an oath to follow such basic things we will certainly make this a better nation to reside in.

But the good thing is finally I am out of dilemma. I have found a wonderful way of celebrating Holi. How about celebrating this grand occasion with small kiddos? Because their smile heals every pain and so whole heartedly our AnantAman family invite you on this auspicious occasion of Holi to celebrate it with a social cause on 28^th March 2k16.

This Holi, play safe, go eco-friendly & save water. Dry Holi is best Holi.

Happy Holi

By Poorva Banthiya

OUTDOORS & HEALTH

When I was a kid, summer vacations used to be a most awaited time for me. I could go out to my nani’s place and can visit the farms (natural beauty), play in the garden with my friends until the sun went down. I kept myself quite occupied without any of today’s modern technologies.

Now, exams are about to finish and there are hundreds of television stations, video games, and interactive Web sites that will keep kids occupied for hours on end. Kids staying indoors for a long period of time have prolonged negative effects extending far beyond childhood. They start missing something that is essential for their health and development. Parents think that their child is safe and will not develop any health problems if they stay indoors all the time. The truth is that a child who spends more time indoors gets subjected to Social, Physical and Emotional problems.

There are many health benefits that make outdoor play great for children.

Ø  Control childhood obesity

The prevalence of childhood obesity is increasing; Part of this huge increase is contributed to less outdoor. It's hard to get enough active play and exercise if you're always inside playing video games or watching TV. And without enough exercise, kids can become overweight.

Ø  Bone health

Vitamin D increases with outdoor exposure to the sun. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends just 10 minutes of early morning sun exposure per day for a good daily vitamin D dose. Vitamin D helps in calcium absorption, protect children from heart disease, diabetes and bone problems.

Ø  Reduce stress

Spending time outdoors has been linked with lower stress levels in children. Playing outdoor games for at least 30 minutes every day can do wonders to refresh and rejuvenate physically and mentally.

Ø  Promote creative and innovation

Outdoors, a child learns on multiple levels with each new adventure (Burdette and Whitaker, 2005). With all of the imaginary castles, lands, creatures, the brain develops at a much faster rate than for those who play indoors. There are numerous effects. Not only do they become better learners, and do well in school, but they are more fun to be around (i.e. they make more friends)

Benefits of outdoor games:

Physical development

·         Physical strength

·         Balance

·         Muscular strength

·         Hand eye coordination

·         Flexibility

·         Weight control

·         Cardiovascular endurance

Social development

·         Citizenship

·         Discipline

·         Teamwork

·         Leadership

·         Confidence boosting

·         Communication skills development

·         Feeling of freedom

·         Awareness

Few examples of outdoor games:

Tracking, Cycling, Walking, Gardening, Hide and seek, Jump rope, Ice water, Sports like cricket, football, basketball, badminton etc.

It’s good for our kids to be outside more often. As a parent, it’s our responsibility to provide varied opportunities for outdoor play, exploration and games.

By- Raksha Goyal

Do you have girlfriend or boyfriend or still messed up ?

Well this can be rated as the topmost rated question of the century which at most times is asked by people and sometimes by ourselves (Lol). Just like advancements in technology relationships too have got highly advanced and rapid. Few centuries back people use to jitter when they were supposed to propose their beloveds. While today situation has just gone reverse. People are too confident to confess even those whom they do not love at all may be because of the thought many will come,many will go (56 aayegi, 56 jayegi meri dulhania toh meri mummy hi layegi). Bitter but true. Although I am strong supporter of women empowerment yet I wouldn't hesitate in revealing the truth. Nowadays, girls are no less cunning than boys may be like (3-4 boyfriend ye to aam baat hai.. ye toh aam baat hai).

Well let me put few illustrations of our society. If a girl is cute or beautiful then she is perceived as reserved and if not a guy would love to be with her. Like if a boy is tall, dark,  handsome or bearded every girl would covertly admire him to be hers. Just a few set of perceptions and we people go crazy. The hilarious segment is that very soon we people start forecasting our future with that particular guy or girl because of just those trivial physical appearances. This is how fast we are.

I remember one of the most common played games among youngster. Can you guess it? Yeah I am talking about ‘Truth and Dare’. Every time people think of this there is bombardment of similar set of questions such as do you have bf or gf? , did you had someone in past? What sort of girl or guy you want in your future?  Well levels of questions vary but these are some hackneyed questions. Enjoyment is okay but what's wrong with us. Why we are so much interested in others life. Aren't we happy with our lives? No doubt globalization has changed lives it has raised our standards. But every time adapting that London culture is mere foolishness. If they people have the culture of witching from one to another. Why are we not following it. We aren't followers, we are achievers, innovators.

Our Indian culture says that ' if you want a husband like Shree Ram you have to practice to become goddess Sita and vice versa. But it is unfortunate that we Indian people have become so much adamant that we have forgotten Indian values. It's candid that our Indian culture is flexible and welcoming. But excess flexibility of our cultural values just to become adaptive can break it.

I remember a very small incident that happened to me recently. While I was teaching a 9th standard student his cell was continually beeping. I asked him to off his data connection. As soon as he did it off just few moments and his cell rang. He replied very sweetly ' Hey sweety! Right now I am outside I'll call you back soon. I was stunned I asked him who was she (although I knew).  He replied my latest gf. I was like if you will do these chores at early years what will be left for your mature years then?

Well this is how things are nowadays. But still if somebody questions you whether you are single or in relationship. Do not hesitate. Reveal the truth.  I have seen many hesitate while saying that they are single. But the best part is if you are single you are living your life to the fullest. You are yours and you should be proud of it as you are not blindly following that flock of sheep. But yeah just saying a no won't do. You should respond really well with a big smile and a small piece of advice that I believe in the most ' I am single I need not give justification but one thing that I can pass on is  ' Build less amorous relationships and more work relationships'. Nothing is awesome than that. This will certainly turn the coffee more hot and chocolaty.

Love being single.  Don't regret. You are at your best.  Rest is all your thought process.

All the best.

By Poorva Banthiya