Two
alter egos were sitting in a park met after a long time. One of them was
fortunately me.
Me: Hey
dude! Is everything all right? Why my all-time nuisance creating buddy is so
serine today?
Friend:
Leave me alone (annoyed).This whole world is 'Selfish'.
Me:
Correct (politely). But what's wrong in being selfish?
Friend:
For the one whom we care the most disappoints the most. And the one whom you
love the most hurts the most.
Me:
It's not actually not being selfish my dear. It's just you expected a lot.
We Homo
sapiens grow up learning the newton's 3 laws. Most of us forget the initial
two. But maximum remember the third one. 'Every action has equal and opposite
reaction'. And with this beautiful law we initiate raising our expectations.
But this law on practical grounds is not as tenable as it is applicable on
scientific grounds. Life is not just about theories, derivations, numerical.
But it's much more. Not every student who studies for 18-20 hours regularly
clears IAS exam. Not every war leads to peace.
Friend:
It's really turning out frustrating for me.
Me:
Calm down. You know the major reason of our frustration at maximum
times is Expectation. If we aid someone, we expect the same from the guy
some or other day. And if he is not able to do so we tag him with one of the
most mis-interpreted word of the world 'selfish'. Without knowing his
circumstances we set our mindsets and instead of fixing problem we give rise to
another problem.
Friend:
Oh c’mon! It's human nature. Why should we not expect?
Me:
Nobody is selfish in this world. It's just how the needs and demands alter
according to circumstances. Nobody can live isolated. Not even the Jainism saints
who have although taken moksha but still urge to share and enlighten their
thoughts. They wish to see the change. They do expect. But before expecting any
change. Change yourself first. Expect from yourself rather than others.
Friend:
Well that's true. But the word selfish means arrogance resulting into
arrogance.
Me:
This is exactly where we are mistaken my dear. The word selfish is not always a
negative connotation as we perceive. To survive in this world we need to be
selfish. Selfish like at least fulfilling our desires and
working on our basic needs.
Friend:
Yeah! True. It does sound interesting.
Me: One
of the greatest ironies in life is before being social we need to be selfish
first. I hope you are not misinterpreting the term selfish now. Being
selfish here means polishing yourselves, working on your forte by learning from
others.
I
remember one of the beautiful lines spoken by superstar Mr Shahrukh Khan that,
do not engage in psychological talks until and unless you do not achieve
anything (gyan tab tak na baato jab tak khud gyaani na ho jao).
Friend:
So it's better to work on our grass first. Right?
Me: Oh
yeah! Exactly. We cannot completely discard our expectations. But still we can
minimize them. Maximum problems will soon get solved then and there
itself. Before being social be an achiever first. And when it comes to
aid 'Be selfless to especially those who are selfish. By doing this you will
definitely fall in love with yourselves. Concluding my words, stop complaining
start living.
By -
Purva Banthiya
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